The Truth About Why Becoming a Working Mom is so Hard

The Truth About Why Becoming a Working Mom is so HardThe Truth About Why Becoming a Working Mom is so HardBecoming a Working Mom and living this lifestyle is a challenge.Heres why Before Working Motherhood You Were Different If you suffered from the disease to please before motherhood it didnt affect you so much (unless you had a severe case of it).The reason why is because before motherhood you had more energy and time to give, plus you were younger. You may have thought it felt good to please others.You thought that your extra efforts were appreciated and valued.You may have felt like you were caring for others.In the end you felt motherly.Its hard to resist this urge because its in most of our DNA systems. Then You Became a Mother... But then something changes.You truly become a mother.You change.You dont want to continue taking care of everyone because your new priority is taking care of your family. The schwierigkeit with this is that people are not fond of change.Althou gh you are now a working mom people know you as the old you who helped out, was their go-to person, the dependable one.But youve changed.How do you transition or even begin to explain your new outlook on life? The Answer in One Simple Truth I dont have the complete answer except for one simple statementThis challenge is unique for each working mom. Each of us has a different career with different co-workers, managers, and corporate cultures to contend or abide by.Each of your children is unique with their unique needs.Your support system, hopefully including a significant other but maybe not, is different.Your home is different with different demands you feel you need to fulfill. And most importantly YOU are beautifully unique.How you handle what life throws at you is unique.This misperceived weakness is a HUGE strength for you to audaciously capitalize on.YOU do not have to act like everyone else in the company or the other moms you see at daycare because you are unique. The qu icker you realize that this statement is your truth, that you are unique, the quicker you can find the answer to this transition challenge.The quicker youll be able to express this change of heart, and mind, to others so that you do not feel torn in a 1000000 directions. Express Your Unique Explanation of Whats Happened to You to Others What do I mean by others?Everyone at work, everyone in your family, and even your children. If you have an infant, sure they arent going to understand, but you understand how you feel toward your child.If you dont then its time to get extremely clear about it, yes you love your child, but theres more isnt there?For instance, when mommy guilt surfaces this is an opportunity for you to dive into your uniqueness, your values and priorities (your VPs). You can exercise your emotional intelligence by becoming aware of what you are truly feeling, why that is, and then manage it.This takes energy, time, and practice, just like the many other adjustments youll need to make as a working mom. You were once a different person.Think about what you were like.Then realize that youve changed.You know why youve change but how do you express this in words?Since we are all unique only you can come up with the right answer.An answer that feels so good to you that you want to be sure that everyone knows it.Because you are proud to have become a Working Mom.

Todays managers blew it with Millennials, professor says

Todays managers blew it with Millennials, professor saysTodays managers blew it with Millennials, professor saysWe blew it with the Millennials.They were confident, bold, very educated, and startlingly different from any generation we had seen before. But when they entered ur classrooms and ur boardrooms ready to contribute with a new perspective on how things could be done, we had to make a choice to welcome them as partners in navigating our changing world or resist them, viewing them as a threat to the way things had always been. We most definitely chose the latter. We took them to task - interpreting their boldness as narcissism and their proactive approaches as an entitlement. We spent years developing the potential of our Millennials, and now we are squandering it.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreMore than a decade ago, 60 Minutes introduced Millennials to the world with a news segment positioning them as a plague we must survive. This negative framing has endured despite evidence that Millennials tend to have shared values with previous generations and have an even greater interest in social responsibility. Research shows Millennials desiremeaningful workand are committed to learning and development, but weve instead created a narrative thattheyre entitled, self-centered, and lazy. Weve blamed them for everything fromkilling American cheeseto thedisappearance of bar soap.While the term Millennials has become a catchall for young people, its no longer an accurate label. The oldest Millennials will be turning 38 years old in 2019, meaning many of them are approaching middle age and obtaining positions in middle management. The youngest Millennials are 22 years old and graduated from college last spring. That means your youngest employees most likely belong to an entirely new generation - Generation Z.Lets do better with this next generation, shall we ?Speculation abounds about Gen Z Will growing up in the shadow of the recession make them financially conservative? Will the novelty of career hopping be lost on them, prompting a return to careers with more longevity, or will they continue to embrace the gig economy and radically reshape what it actually means to have a career at all? None of this is certain, but one thing is We cannot treat them as adversaries like we did with Millennials.Why? Quite simply, we cannot afford the continued loss of menschenfreundlich potential. The rate of change in every industry in our business world is unprecedented, and to survive, we need everyone fully invested in their work. As Einstein once said, We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them. The challenges we face will not be overcome using old ways of thinking, and they will not be solved by one generation, young or old.Our contentious view of Millennials has contributed to a fundamental misunderstanding o f how to productively motivate and lead this vital part of our workforce.Only 29 % of Millennials report being engaged in their work. This low level of engagement has implications for organizational productivity, absenteeism, turnover, and commitment. In other words, our largest generation in the workplace is our most disengaged, leading to a loss in vital talent and energy.What we desperately need is a gentelligent approach to working together. Gentelligence is an organizational strategy that views the perspectives and talents of different generations as an opportunity, not a threat. This approach paves the road both for younger employees to use their unique insights to innovate and solve problems, and for older generations to work with them to provide context and guidance for how to help those ideas get needed traction within our organizations.There are a few organizations out there that have begun to crack the code on how to engage their essential Millennial employees and illustr ate the power of a gentelligent approach, but not nearly enough. Fortunes list of thebest workplaces for Millennials showcases a few model examples. A Millennial employee at Kimley Horn, No. 4 on the list, said, Its amazingly powerful to know that not only does our management find value in making sure we understand why we do things the way we do, but that they value the knowledge we bring to the table.Evidence of the potential of gentelligence can be found at places such asPapa.com, where young people are seen as valuable partners and companions in a grandkids-on-demand business model, or at companies such as SoulCycle,where even the CEO has a Millennial mentor.We now have a new generation entering our workplace. This time, it will be the Millennials meeting Gen Z at the door, serving as their supervisors and showing them the ropes. This is their opportunity to lay out the welcome mat that was not given to their generation when they arrived and to do what Millennials do best show us a new way of doing things.This article first appeared on Business Insider.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people

How to Deal with Career Jealousy Productively  The Muse

How to Deal with Career Jealousy Productively The MuseHow to Deal with Career Jealousy Productively - The MuseJealousy gets the best of everyone from time to time. Were all guilty of feeling a twinge of resentment when anotherbei colleague is publicly praised or asked to take on that brand new project we wanted. However, theres a point when healthy competition turns into an unhealthy obsession- and it only ends up hurting you. So, instead of sitting there green with envy over a co-worker whos more successful, utilize these three strategies to harness that energy and further your own career. (Because no one ever got ahead by sitting around and resenting co-workers.)1. Ask for PointersInstead of looking at a successful co-worker as an adversary, look to him or her as a very available mentor who you can hit up for advice. Asking for pointers accomplishes two things You learn some of the tips and tricks that are pushing your colleague ahead- and you give this person a nice little ego boo st thatll probably make him or her like you more. So, for example, instead of getting jealous when your co-workers praised for his impeccable presentation skills yet again, walk on over to his desk and ask for a few pointers for how you can do the same. All of a sudden youve gone from enemies to collaborators. 2. Focus on Your StrengthsI once had a colleague who was a much better writer than me, to the point where I couldnt help obsessing over the fact that anything I wrote could be written 10 times better by her. Then one day, she mentioned how jealous she was of my networking skills and wished she could be as good at building relationships. Suddenly, she was no longer this invincible superhuman, she was simply a person trying to better herself, too.While I certainly dont recommend purposefully searching for the flaws of others, its important to recognize your own strengths and what you bring to the table. In my case, focusing so much on the abilities I didnt have meant that I also wasnt spending time considering how much I had to offer. At the very least, take a couple minutes to write down your top three strengths, and focus on using those skills as you work your way up the ladder.3. Keep Your Feelings to YourselfSometimes its necessary to get things off your chest. But talking with other colleagues about your feelings (even if theyre close confidantes) says more about you than whoever youre gossiping about.Unless another persons success is to the detriment of the team (which isnt the case 99.9% of the time), keep your thoughts to yourself in the office. If you want to gab about your feelings with your mom or your BFF, thats one thing (venting to the appropriate people is OK). But bringing up issues with other co-workers not only affects team dynamics, but it also changes how others see and treat you. Rarely does someone get praised by others for talking behind their co-workers backs. If you take one thing away from this, let it be this Successful co-worker s are a blessing in disguise, as long as you know how to work the situation to your advantage.

24% of us are checking our phones within a minute of waking up

24% of us are checking ur phones within a minute of waking up24% of us are checking our phones within a minute of waking upTheres no rest for the weary, especially if you have a cell phone which, of course you do. Do you also keep it in your bedroom at night? Do you use it as your alarm clock? (Raises hand.) Perhaps thats why so many people are checking their phones less than a minute after they wake up, according to a new survey from Rootmetrics called Lifestyles of Mobile Consumers.The survey asked 1,200 Americans about mobile technology and how it influenced their everyday lives. And of course, always ahead of the curve on any trend, a full third 31% of Millennials check their phones within a minute of waking up. (Only 9% of Baby Boomers wake n check 21% may wait as long as an hour.)And if you think you can surely wait longer than most, then perhaps youre in the majority nearly 60% checks their phones within 10 minutes after opening their eyes.Other results from the surveyOnl ine Christmas shopping still takes place on a computer 41% of the time , but its shifting to the smartphone. 45% of people surveyed and 52% of Millennials plan to do their most of their shopping on their phones this year.Now mora than ever, phones are barely used for talking if that function was cancelled, no one would miss it. About a third (34%) of people are texting most of the time, and another third (32%) mostly use their phone for social media. However, Millennials are more likely to use their phones mostly for social media (40%), while Boomers are more likely to use their phones mainly to chat over text (54%).While a cell phone may or may not be able to save you in a crisis, 52% of women reported that they feel unsafe if they find themselves in an area with bad wifi connection, and an even larger number of Millennials 67% feel the same way. (Weve already learned about smartphone separation anxiety wifi separation anxiety is similar.)Lessons learned? Well, were addicted t o our phones, of course but the nature of our addiction varies widely across different across age groups. Deloitte recently estimated we check our phones 52 times a day but that seems low. Another study put it at 80 times a day, or every 12 minutes.Regardless, maybe checking the phone before your feet hit the floor is the one habit to break in 2019, if youre going to do just one thing. The first step is to buy a real alarm clock.

These inspirational notes helped celebrities psych themselves up to succeed

These inspirational notes helped celebrities psych themselves up to succeedThese inspirational notes helped celebrities psych themselves up to succeedSometimes, you need to see it to believe it. This is a helpful visualizing exercise that everyone, even celebrities, have done to make their success a reality.Octavia Butler So be it I will find the way to do this. See to itOctavia Butler is remembered as one of the greatest science-fiction writers of the 20th century, becoming the first science fiction writer to win a MacArthur genius grant. But in 1988, before the awards and recognition, she wrote an inspirational note to herself in her private jurnal. In her entry, she described her future success This is my life.I will help poor black youngsters go to college. I will get the best of health care for my mother and myself. I will hire a car whenever I want or need to.I will travel whenever and wherever in the world that I choose.My books will be read by millions of peopleSo be it See t o itShe visualized her future success with no compromises or qualifications. Failure was not an option. Verbs were in the present tense. So be it See to it Butler promised herself she would become a best-selling author, and she did become one.As life coach and vision-board proponent Martha Beck notes, visualizing works because it asks us to shift our minds attention towards our goals, so that they begin to feel more like reality. When you put your attention on something, you experience more of it. Maybe it is created by a magical force of attention. At the very least, you are going to selectively pay attention to these things you like once you selectively start to gear yourself to focus on them more, Beck said.Kendrick Lamars rules for successToday, Kendrick Lamar is recognized as one of the greatest rappers of his generation. In 2011, he was still an up-and-coming rapper recording tracks in his garage.In this garage,photographer David Black noticed that Lamar had an inspirational b oard of advice to himself and took a photo of it, which was published inCalifornia Sunday. In his inspirational note to himself, Lamar identified five keys to hip-hop success charisma, substance, lyrics, uniqueness, and a strong work ethic. The top 5 didnt get there off mere talent. You match talent with drive, he wrote under the Work Ethics column. Take away 50s ability to make great songs and you still have one of the hardest-working human beings Ive ever encountered.Visualizing how he was going to remain disciplined and centered like his idols worked. With his inspiration board guiding him, Lamar earned four Grammy award nominations for thegood kid,m.A.A.d city albumthat he incubated in this garage.Jim Carrey wrote himself a check for $10 millionWhen you dont have it in your hands, you can still get power out of holding a physical reminder. Thats what comedian and actor Jim Carrey did.In 1997, he told Oprah Winfrey in an interview that he would drive his Toyota to Hollywood Hills and imagine a world where he wasnt broke, but a successful actor directors would love to work with.He took this visualization one step further and wrote himself a future check for acting services rendered. The check gave him a deadline of a few years.I put it in my wallet and I kept it there and it deteriorated and deteriorated, Carrey said. But then just before Thanksgiving 1995, I found out I was going to make $10 million off of Dumb and Dumber.Of course, you cant just rest on visualization alone. Hard work, discipline and talent are the foundation to making this exercise work. But what these notes show is that learning how to inspire yourself is just as necessary too.

Solutions for It Resume Examples 2017 in Easy to Follow Step by Step Format

Solutions for It Resume Examples 2017 in Easy to Follow Step by Step Format It Resume Examples 2017 Secrets You might not possess all the desired skills its not an issue, but presenting the ones that you do possess effectively is essential. Dont have the proper skills, and you might lose out on your perfect job prospect. If it doesnt stand out, there isnt any reason for employers to select yours. The very first thing you ought to do is make sure a prospective employer knows whose resume theyre taking a look atBegin with something you adore about the geschftliches miteinander instead. As a consequence, you dont require stuff which is too fancy or technical to acquire in. Since whoever owns the company is tied to the provider closely and on a personal level, obtaining a fresh from the box viewpoint from a consultant can be extremely useful. A great consultant will sit down with the owner, and offer an efficient strategy as a way to fix the difficulties. The Honest to Goodness T ruth on It Resume Examples 2017 COMBINATION RESUMES are excellent for individuals that are looking to earn a career change and continue from 1 industry to another. You may also download totally free templates from our Resume Library to get going on your best resume. A CCNA is normally an IT certification. A Consultant might advise one particular person, several men and women, or entire departments of a firm. Read more on the best way to compose your impressive Consultant resume above. The Good, the Bad and It Resume Examples 2017 The desktop support engineer CV example will reveal to you the way to encompass your wide variety of competencies in your document. If you get a simple understanding of Microsoft word, you will have the ability to customize it and make your own resume. Currently, its not vital to format your own resume on your own. No matter your degree of job knowledge, your resume format is essential to making your program stick out. Choosing Good It Resume Exam ples 2017 All that can compose a valuable experience section. In some instances, the leasing consultants have to operate a property golf cart to show residences to possible customers. It can be challenging to truly feel prepared when applying for work, but focusing on developing a strong CV will make it a lot simpler to be hired. Then use the helpful writing tips to make your own CV tailored for the job which you desire. The Battle Over It Resume Examples 2017 and How to Win It Whether to employ a geschftsleben consultant or not is a tremendous decision nearly every business is going to have to make at the same point or another. Your screener may have gone to the identical university or was from precisely the same country as you. Even should a client doesnt demand your presence on-site, you will need to fly to contact your team. While the firm may eventually get in contact with you, a very first impression is set and youre going to get off to a lousy start. When youve set y our sights on consulting for a career pathand figured out what kind of firm you want to work forthe next step is to receive your resume ready. The secret is to choose the proper achievements and to describe them in a sense which makes it clear you would make a huge consultant. In a moment, you will observe an ideal consultant resume. The very first step for virtually any business consultant is to learn their customers business, which is also referred to as the discovery stage. To have the ability to catch the interest of the hiring manager and land an interview, you want to get a fantastic CV as a portion of your application package. If you place in the effort to produce your CV shine, you may apply with confidence. You wish to know if you experience an interview once possible. Its crucial that you dont simply apply these resumes verbatim.

What Your Personality Says About Your Career Path

What Your Personality Says About Your Career Path Everyone knows that the workplace is a mishmash of personality types. For better or for worse, tzu siche will always be colleagues who see the world differently and have varying strengths and weaknesses. One of the fruchtwein obvious ways people relate to their environments and each other is though introversion and extroversion. Both introverts and extrovertshave their own unique strengths, which you can maximize in the workplace and elsewhere. Fundamental Differences in Personality TypesWhether youre an extrovert or introvert, accepting, owning, and enjoying your dominant personality traits can lead to a happier, more fulfilled life. Studies have found thatintroverts are actually wired differently than extroverts. Introverts have more blood flow in the frontal lobes of their brains and the anterior, or frontal, thalamus, which are both areas that verstndigung im strafverfahren with internal processing. They are great planners and problem-solvers.Extroverts, on the other hand, have more blood flow in the anterior cingulate gyrus, temporal lobes, and posterior thalamus, which are involved in sensory and emotional experience.Other researchhas indicated that introversion-extroversion is actually related to individual differences in brain function.Introverts can easily become self-aware around others, which can cause them to over-plan and overthink even simple outings. An introverted person can have a hard time figuring out the right thing to say in conversations with others. They can be social people, but still tend to reveal less about themselves than extroverts. fruchtwein introverts prefer taking some time to think before responding to a situation because they would rather develop their ideas by reflecting privately. Introverts have the ability to focus their attention more readily and for longer periods of time than extrover ts. Some introverts may feel awkward or weird around groups of extroverts, but they may be attracted to an extroverted person. While many introverts seem to come across as shy and quiet individuals, not all of them are. Shy people can be introverted or extroverted. Introverts prefer keeping things low-key, rather than going to large social events.Introverts in the WorkplaceIntroverts feel most comfortable working alone or in a small group, as this allows them to focus on solving problems without any distractions.A few ideal career choices for introverts includeSoftware EngineerMarket Research AnalystTranslatorHuman Resources SpecialistAccountantAccording to renowned Swiss psychiatristCarl Jung, extroversion is the ability to turnthe interests and energies of onesmind toward events, people, and things in the world around us. In psychology, an extrovert is a person concerned more about the practical realities of life rather than with ones inner thoughts and feelings. Simply put, an in dividual who is keen on what is happening around themis an extrovert.If you know someone who loves to socialize and has an outgoing personality, they aremore than likely an extrovert. Extroverts make the most of the opportunities that come their ways. They dont worry too much about what if. Extroverts are usually the ones who put candy on their desks at the workplace in order to encourage interactions with others. They tend to be energized around other people, and they may becomebored and restless when alone.Extroverts in the WorkplaceMost extroverts are eager to land jobs that doesnt actually feel like jobs. Extroverts thrive in positions where they are able to mingle freely with coworkers whenever they please. They prefer jobs that entail different daily duties, rather set routines.Here are some ideal professions for an extroverted personPublic Relations ManagerElementary School TeacherPhysical TherapistSales ProfessionalIf you are unsure of whether you are an introvert or an extr overt, taking aMyers-Briggs Type Indicator assessmentis a great way to find out more about your particular traits. Once you become aware of your specific personality type, you will be able to better prevent some of the common problems that may occur when trying to fit a square into a circle. It is also helpful in further understanding yourself and what might best suit your personality type in your pursuit of happiness. When you better understand yourself, your interactions with others make a little more sense.The Myers-Briggs personality test can be a great resource for employers and supervisors. Understanding your employees on deeper levels allows you to maximize efficiency, communication, and harmony. For example, more introverted coworkers may preferdetailed memos, whereas extroverts may prefer a conference or demonstration.Introverts and extroverts both have fantastic strengths. At their full potential, either type can become a powerhouse at the officeThis article originally app eared on BusinessCollective.Jessica M. Baker is the Founder and CEO ofAligned Signs, the only patented self-discovery and relationship tool of its kind. Ms. Baker fuels her business ventures with expertise gained from nine years of experience in finance, business analysis, client management, and research. Jessica graduated summa cum laude with a Master of Business Administration in finance and a Bachelor of Science in biology from the University of Texas.